The reason couples counseling works is because the two of you will be able to say what you haven’t been capable of saying.  And you can do it without worrying that your world will fall apart.  With a trained therapist you will find the support you need to speak about the hard stuff, to say the things you want to say but have been afraid to because you don’t want to hurt the other person.  It doesn’t make you a more loving individual by not saying something your partner may not like.  It makes you sacrifice your own happiness because you are taking care of another first.  This is another pattern that can be broken.

Whatever is keeping you from the closeness you desire can be helped in couple’s counseling.  I specialize in working with couples. Let me help you find your way back to each other.

How close do you feel to your partner?  Can you talk about anything that’s bothering you, or do you stuff the difficult issues inside and not say anything?  Maybe you’re used to responding with a sarcastic comment.  Maybe your partner responds to you this way too.  Does it feel as if you are getting nowhere?  Do you feel your partner just doesn’t understand you and you don’t feel heard?

These are common patterns many couples find themselves living.  This does not mean you have a bad relationship.  It means you have challenges.  These blocks in communication are messages to you and your partner that something is wrong.  That’s all; it’s a signal that something needs to be addressed.